Play Therapy for children who need another way to speak
I use play therapy with children who communicate best through action, imagination, and relationship. It gives me a way to understand what they’re carrying when words are hard to find.
How I use it
Lillian Lai, LCSW
I let play lead the conversation while staying attentive to the feelings and patterns underneath it. That might include pretend play, drawing, games, or simple activities that show me how the child is making sense of things. For some children, I work mostly through play; for others, I use a mix of play and age-appropriate conversation. I also keep parents in the loop about what I’m noticing, when that’s helpful.
Play often says what a child can’t say yet.
Who it tends to suit
Some children can’t or won’t talk much in a regular conversation. They may act out feelings, become quiet, or show what’s happening through pretend play, drawing, or the way they use the room. Parents often want to understand behavior that feels confusing, intense, or hard to manage. Play therapy can also help when a child has a hard time trusting adults right away.
- I don’t know how to say what I feel.
- I act things out instead of talking about them.
- I get stuck in big feelings fast.
- I’m better at playing than explaining.
What the first sessions look like
The first sessions are about getting comfortable and seeing how the child communicates. I pay attention to how they play, what themes show up, and what helps them feel settled enough to engage.
Questions people ask
What age is play therapy for?
I use it with children, especially when talking directly feels hard or too much. The exact fit depends on the child and what they need from the work.
Does play therapy mean my child is just playing?
The play is part of the work, and I pay close attention to it. Through play, children often show what they’re feeling, worrying about, or trying to manage.
Can parents be involved in play therapy?
Yes, parent involvement can be part of the work when it’s helpful. I may share observations and discuss how the child is showing things at home.
Is play therapy only for big problems?
No, children come in for many different reasons. Play can help when a child is struggling with feelings, behavior, or changes at home or school.
About Child & Teen Therapist in Yorba Linda, CA
I work with children, teens, and families who are dealing with anxiety, trauma, depression, or family transitions. I see people in person in Yorba Linda and online across California.
Talk it through with Lillian
Tell us what has been going on and we will take it from there.